Friday, November 9, 2012

DON'T LOVE ALONE

There are things you must do alone.
We are alone, more or less, when we are born. We are alone when we die. We are alone when we start school. We are alone when we step out into the working world.
Then there are things we choose to do alone. Some run alone. Others read alone. Many write alone. Some live alone, by choice. I like to bike alone, to work out alone, to think on my own, alone.
Some things, however, cannot be done alone. The greatest of these is love. You cannot love alone. You might think you can, that you can love someone who does not love you back, that you can have this relationship where one person loves and the other does not, but time will prove that this simply does not and cannot work.
It takes two to tango and two to love. Yes, you each may have, from time to time, varying depth and strength of love, the love may be more unconditional for one than for the other, or may be more accepting and forgiving with one than with another, but you both must love for the relationship to have any hope, any future. If just one of you loves, then this is going nowhere.
This means risking love by admitting your love to someone, by putting yourself out there, taking a chance on love, with the real possibility that you will be doing this alone and, therefore, be ultimately rejected.
In which case you will, once again, be alone. But you won't truly be in love anymore, because you'll know that what you felt was something else, something different. Because for there to be love, it must be shared and reciprocated.
So when you love, love with all your heart, but make sure you are loved in return.

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